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Similarly, 14 months after his death, I found traveling to meet dates and figuring out new locales to be enervating.

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But I really wanted to be on my own and meet different kinds of people for awhile.

I unnecessarily confused a few serious guys who wanted exclusive relationships, One fellow wrote me that after he lost his wife, he wanted a friend with benefits only. Another gentleman said he wants a girlfriend, but still wants to live separately. It helps to have a goal before shopping in the human mall of online dating.

On Friday evening we met for the first time, at the official launch of the project.

There were a lot of people there, and I'm not gregarious (especially as this was the first big event I've gone along to since everything, and am still receiving some awkward condolences) and he clearly is outgoing. I've done no work since the school run this morning, just written a list of all the reasons why pursuing this would be a bad idea.

But I feel stupid for being so uncertain about this. I've become close to someone over the past 6 weeks while emailing about a project we're both involved with in different ways.

I didn't think about him romantically before we met - mainly I think, because I'm too busy to think about anything much beyond my kids and my work.Blogging has shown me older daters are a cynical lot. I haven't been active on mn for a while, but I find myself with no-one IRL to ask. Also, like they might judge me for thinking about this so soon. We were together for 18 years, right from Uni, married for 15. (Both freelancers in creative fields who work on several projects at a time - this is the only one where our involvement overlaps.) This particular project is very personal to me, as it touches on loss and grief, and our e-conversations became quite deep and I felt like we clicked, and would perhaps become friends.Let’s try some introspection before we start dating. It’s hard for me to admit I was using dating to prove I was still wantable.I confused being liked with having self-esteem, but that comes This last one is more for the benefit of your prospective beaus.Trying to date before I’d processed George’s death caused unnecessary turmoil both for me and the guys I was seeing.

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