Dating again after becoming a widow

But there are those who wait out the so-called year deadline of propriety too, and others who buy wholeheartedly into the notion that they must “work at their grieving” to get it all out of their system before trying to move on in any aspect of their lives, dating included. In my opinion, and experience, when thinking about it begins to more of a logistical “how will I do it” rather than a daydream to chase away sadness, you are probably ready to look into it at the very least.

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Widowed who are truly ready to date do not use their widowhood to control the pace of a relationship or coerce their girl/boyfriends into accepting unilateral terms of engagement.

Playing the widow card in the relationship arena is a no-no. Some widowed find contentment and even a lot of joy in being single and unattached.

For widows, is loving again worth the effort of having to adjust to another person?

And is widowhood the proper time to fall in love again?

Once a widow hits 65, the odds for remarriage fall off sharply.

Widowed with children date and remarry with ease or not depending on the age of the children, and believe it or not – adult children can be the worst to deal with when it comes to dating and remarriage with teenagers coming in an unsurprising second. At what magical point in the days, weeks or month after a spouse dies is dating permitted?

You can’t please everyone, and what other people – even your kids – think about you isn’t your business anyway. You don’t tell them how to live or who to love and they don’t have the right to tell you anything either.

Generally, if you have good, supportive relationships with kids, extended family and friends, this will all work out and they will be happy and supportive. Once you hand the keys of your dating life over to your kids, they won’t give them back, and do you really want to be that old man or woman, whose adult children talk to them as though they were small fluffy purse puppies?

Taking their feelings into account is good, but don’t forget that they have their own lives to mind and should leave the minding of yours to you. Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned.

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